No one ever prays to experience a breakup with a spouse, but sometimes it just has to happen because if the present does not give way, the future will never come.
Relationships should be balanced. A partner should not feel cheated or enslaved. Many relationships that are one-sided remain so or even worse because a partner is afraid of the unknown or often times, because one’s religion frowns at divorce. Do we now say because your religion does not support, separation, then the victim who is being physically abused should die in it. We have heard many stories of such in and outside our immediate society that ended in death.
There was this story told about a lady in her mid-thirties who had a fight with her husband. The bone of contention is not important here now, but the lady ran to her Pastor to report the matter. The Pastor called in the lady’s Father and they both agreed that the lady should return to her marital home, promising to come and resolve the issue the next day. Unfortunately, the lady never survived that night because her husband strangled her in the middle of the night. Let’s leave that gist for another day.
When separation or breakups happen, the victim should first and foremost, thank God and tell his or herself that, it is not end of the world. “Leave me alone, no be leave the world”. Take it that it has happened for the best. Surely, the best is yet to come. Just relax, give it some time; God may have saved you from a future trouble. You can’t tell.
Am sure you are so eager to get the rest of the gist now let’s get down to it.
- Never, ever jump straight into another relationship knowing that you are still recovering from your last breakup. Do not use this as a way of trying to find healing, because it will affect the new person you are dating, since you are still emotionally distraught. Take one step at a time. Give yourself ample time to heal.
In the meantime, evaluate whether you are actually ready to be with someone again or you are simply in need of a friend to whom you can unload your emotional burdens.
- Never, ever scheme to get your ex back. If you do that, you have truly reduced your self-worth. Engage in activities that will lift your spirit and soul like planning a trip somewhere that you have always been fascinated with, joining a book club, or other interesting sporting activities that you have always loved. Or even changing your environment by relocating to another state or town.
- There is something common these days that I think is a piss-off kind of attitude. You will see someone going through a breakup putting all their emotional baggage on social media. Personally, I think this act is childish. Avoid using direct or indirect words to express how you are feeling on social media knowing that your ex will probably read it. Airing your grievances on social media platform can be embarrassing later. Just live your life.
- Have a free conscience –
Stop blaming yourself for the breakup. Relationship is a commitment of two individuals. Stop thinking you should have done more. It takes two to break up so the problem was not just you.
- When you wake up every morning, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful. You don’t deserve someone who will treat you less or otherwise.
No one ever prays to experience a breakup with a spouse, but sometimes it just has to happen because if the present does not give way, the future will never come.
Relationships should be balanced. A partner should not feel cheated or enslaved. Many relationships that are one-sided remain so or even worse because a partner is afraid of the unknown or often times, because one’s religion frowns at divorce. Do we now say because your religion does not support, separation, then the victim who is being physically abused should die in it. We have heard many stories of such in and outside our immediate society that ended in death.
There was this story told about a lady in her mid-thirties who had a fight with her husband. The bone of contention is not important here now, but the lady ran to her Pastor to report the matter. The Pastor called in the lady’s Father and they both agreed that the lady should return to her marital home, promising to come and resolve the issue the next day. Unfortunately, the lady never survived that night because her husband strangled her in the middle of the night. Let’s leave that gist for another day.
When separation or breakups happen, the victim should first and foremost, thank God and tell his or herself that, it is not end of the world. “Leave me alone, no be leave the world”. Take it that it has happened for the best. Surely, the best is yet to come. Just relax, give it some time; God may have saved you from a future trouble. You can’t tell.
Am sure you are so eager to get the rest of the gist now let’s get down to it.
- Never, ever jump straight into another relationship knowing that you are still recovering from your last breakup. Do not use this as a way of trying to find healing, because it will affect the new person you are dating, since you are still emotionally distraught. Take one step at a time. Give yourself ample time to heal.
In the meantime, evaluate whether you are actually ready to be with someone again or you are simply in need of a friend to whom you can unload your emotional burdens.
- Never, ever scheme to get your ex back. If you do that, you have truly reduced your self-worth. Engage in activities that will lift your spirit and soul like planning a trip somewhere that you have always been fascinated with, joining a book club, or other interesting sporting activities that you have always loved. Or even changing your environment by relocating to another state or town.
- There is something common these days that I think is a piss-off kind of attitude. You will see someone going through a breakup putting all their emotional baggage on social media. Personally, I think this act is childish. Avoid using direct or indirect words to express how you are feeling on social media knowing that your ex will probably read it. Airing your grievances on social media platform can be embarrassing later. Just live your life.
- Stop blaming yourself for the breakup. Relationship is a commitment of two individuals. Stop thinking you should have done more. It takes two to break up so the problem was not just you.
- When you wake up every morning, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful. You don’t deserve someone who will treat you less or otherwise.
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